Oral sex and the man over 50
Even in these supposedly enlightened and uninhibited times, there are a surprising number of women who do not like the idea of giving a man oral sex. But oral pleasure is at least as good as vaginal sex in most men’s eyes.
So if you’re a woman who’s reluctant to give her man oral sex, it’s extremely unlikely that your man will be sexually content if he never receives oral pleasure from you. There’s something particularly special about oral sex: it honors a man’s very being, besides paying homage to the most outward and obvious sign of his masculinity. And, like it or not, he will want to ejaculate in your mouth even if he says he does not mind being finished off by hand.
This is because a woman’s willingness to accept a man’s ejaculate in her mouth is a very potent symbol of her acceptance of every aspect of his masculinity. Should you have no desire to receive his semen in your mouth, then take him as close to ejaculation with your mouth as you can, then move your mouth away at the last moment, and finish him off with a very well lubricated hand. This is the next best thing to full oral sex.
If, however, you’re still reluctant to pleasure him orally, it’s definitely worth trying to overcome your hesitation, because oral sex is a vital part of the sexual repertoire for a man over 50. That’s because for a man whose erection is not as reliable as it once was, oral sex can be a very satisfying and fulfilling way of obtaining sexual pleasure.
Even if he does not have an erection, a man can obtain immense pleasure from being stimulated orally. Finally, more often than not, slow and relaxed oral sex is a wonderful way of helping a man who has difficulty in this department get a hard erection.
Once again, a degree of confidence and knowledge on your part are required to get the best from oral sex, as from any sexual technique.
Remember to keep your teeth covered by your lips and use your tongue to stimulate all areas of the penile head, especially the frenulum. If you want to maintain control of the depth to which his penis enters your mouth, put your closed fist right around the base of his penis. You’ll feel much more confident that he isn’t going to get over-excited and start thrusting too deeply into your throat.
Two of the best positions for oral sex are: (1) him standing with you kneeling on the floor in front of him; and (2) him lying on his back on the bed with you kneeling over him with your buttocks and groin close to his mouth.
You may need to prop his head up with a pillow or two so that he can get his face close to your delicious vulva – the sight and scent of which is likely to add to his excitement as you caress his penis with your mouth. Also, if you have long hair, let that flow freely and gently over his groin, penis and testicles to add to the delightful stimulation.
Oral sex on a man is one of the most exciting things a woman can do for him: to be in possession of such a glorious technique is a wonderful way of ensuring that his penis remains responsive to both your desire and his.
Are you getting enough sleep?
This isn’t some kind of joke about how long you’re staying awake versus how long you’re having sex! It’s a serious point about the need for sleep. Nothing interrupts the good functioning of the 50+ penis more than stress – and nothing stops stress building up more effectively than adequate sleep.
We all know that these days there are many demands on us which can prevent us getting enough high-quality sleep. The simple fact is, however, that if a man over 50 doesn’t get enough sleep, then his sexual desire will be low and his performance impaired. If either of you is feeling tired in the morning, you need to find a way to sleep better and more restfully.
So here’s a simple summary of sexual techniques for the man over 50 – or, rather, a summary of health tips and sexual techniques to which a man of 50 years or more needs to pay attention.
First and foremost, a man over 50 should be paying attention to his physical health including his cholesterol levels, his exercise levels, and ensuring that he is both physically fit and eating a diet is likely to sustain good health.
Second, he should be checking his hormone levels to establish whether or not some kind of hormone replacement therapy might be helpful to his well-being. You can find out more about the symptoms of testosterone deficiency here.
Third, you and he should be communicating about all aspects of your sexual experiences, including the changes that are taking place in your bodies, and what this might mean for your sexual wishes, needs, and desires.
Fourth, you should be discovering or rediscovering the most effective foreplay and stimulation techniques, the stimulation that arouses him as much as possible, and makes his penis as hard as it can be. This may include finding new ways to explore sensual and sexual experiences together, including oral stimulation if this has not previously been a part of your sexual repertoire.
Fifth, the 50s are a time when all of us should be slowing down, living a gentler, more considered life that reflects our lessening energy and capacity to cope with stress.
Unfortunately, our modern world rarely provides us with the opportunity to grow old (or older) gracefully. Indeed, the demands of family, money, work, and so on, let alone changes in our sexuality, can all combine to produce a life which is actually more stressful than it was in our earlier decades.
Nonetheless, we all have a certain amount of choice about how we live our lives, and making the decision to reduce stress, get more sleep, and enjoy sex at a level which is appropriate for our current libido and needs, are all powerful choices which contribute to a more relaxed and fulfilling, not to mention satisfying, sex life.
Sixth, both of you need to be looking at expanding your sexual knowledge and perhaps your sexual repertoire (your range sexual techniques and positions, that is) so that it fits with your expectations. In particular, understanding the changes that are happening in your bodies is essential to understanding why the certainties with which you’ve lived for years, or even decades, may not sustain you through the years beyond 50.